How do I stop my child from copying bad behaviour in school?
If you’ve ever asked yourself this question, you’re certainly not alone.
Many parents notice their child coming home with new words, attitudes, or behaviours and wonder where they came from. One week their child is polite and respectful. The next, they seem to be answering back, copying negative behaviours, or following the crowd.
The good news is that this is completely normal.
The challenge isn’t stopping children from learning from others.
The challenge is helping them learn from the right people.
Why Do Children Copy Bad Behaviour?
Children are natural imitators.
Before they learn from books, they learn by watching.
They watch:
Friends
Classmates
Social media
Television
Family members
Children often copy behaviours that appear popular, funny, or that get attention. Unfortunately, they don’t always have the experience to recognise whether those behaviours are good or bad.
The NHS explains that children’s behaviour is heavily influenced by their environment, experiences, and the people around them.
NHS Children’s Behaviour Guidance:
https://www.nhs.uk/mental-health/children-and-young-adults/advice-for-parents/children-and-young-adults-behaviour/
How Do I Stop My Child From Copying Bad Behaviour In School?
The answer may not be what many parents expect.
The goal isn’t to stop children copying others completely.
That’s impossible.
Children learn by observing the people around them.
Instead, we should ask:
Who is my child copying?
Because children become like the people they spend time with.
If they spend time around people who:
Make poor choices
Avoid responsibility
Disrespect others
Blame everyone else
They’re more likely to copy those behaviours.
But the opposite is also true.
When children spend time around positive influences, they naturally begin to copy:
Confidence
Respect
Responsibility
Leadership
Self-control
Why Positive Influences Matter
One of the most powerful things parents can do is create positive environments around their children.
The NSPCC highlights the importance of positive role models and positive parenting in helping children develop healthy behaviours and strong character.
NSPCC Positive Parenting Advice:
https://www.nspcc.org.uk/keeping-children-safe/support-for-parents/positive-parenting/
This is why the people around your child matter so much.
Teachers matter.
Friends matter.
Family matters.
Mentors matter.
Every environment is teaching something.
The question is:
What is it teaching?
The Champions Journey Starts With Paradigms
Because this is such an important part of a child’s life, we help children understand this through what we call The Champions Journey.
The Champions Journey consists of nine lessons that help children become the best version of themselves.
The first lesson is called:
Champions Paradigms
A paradigm is simply how we see ourselves and the world around us.
Many children unknowingly wear labels.
They may think:
I’m shy.
I’m a follower.
I’m always getting into trouble.
I’m not a leader.
The problem is that children often behave according to the labels they give themselves.
One of the biggest breakthroughs a child can have is realising:
“Just because I see myself that way doesn’t mean that’s who I am.”
A change in paradigm can change everything.
Parents often tell me they want their child to become a leader.
What many people don’t realise is that leadership starts long before leading others.
The first person a child must learn to lead is themselves.
Can they control:
Their attitude?
Their effort?
Their choices?
Their behaviour?
Their response when others are making poor decisions?
That’s where real leadership begins.
And the exciting thing is that children can begin developing these skills surprisingly quickly because they are in control of themselves.
How Martial Arts Helps Children Make Better Choices
At Kicx Academy, children come because martial arts is fun.
They enjoy:
Learning new skills
Earning belts
Making friends
Achieving goals
But while they’re enjoying martial arts, they’re also learning something much bigger.
They’re learning how to lead themselves.
Through our Champions Character programme, children develop:
Focus
Responsibility
Listening Skills
Teamwork
Respect
Self-Belief
We call this:
The Champions Trifecta
Focus • Skill • Belief
These are the foundations that help children make better decisions both inside and outside the dojo.
If you’d like to learn more about how we help children build confidence, focus and strong character, we’d love to hear from you.
Contact Kicx Academy:
https://kidsmartialartsgloucester.com/contact/
The Real Goal
How do I stop my child from copying bad behaviour in school?
The real answer is to help them become the kind of person who can think for themselves.
A child who understands their values.
A child who can make good decisions.
A child who has confidence in who they are.
A child who can choose the right path even when others around them choose the wrong one.
That’s what strong character looks like.
And that’s why positive influences matter so much.
Frequently Asked Questions
How do I stop my child from copying bad behaviour in school?
Children naturally copy the people around them. The key is helping them spend more time around positive influences and teaching them how to think independently and make good choices.
Is it normal for children to copy bad behaviour?
Yes. Children learn through observation and imitation. It is a normal part of development.
Can martial arts help improve behaviour?
Many parents find martial arts helps children develop self-discipline, focus, confidence, respect, and responsibility.
What is a paradigm?
A paradigm is the way we see ourselves and the world around us. Changing a child’s paradigm can often change their behaviour.
What is Champions Character?
Champions Character is our child development programme that uses martial arts as the vehicle to teach focus, skill, belief, leadership, confidence, and life skills.
Ready to help your child build confidence, focus, and strong character?
Contact Kicx Academy:
https://kidsmartialartsgloucester.com/contact/
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One More Thing
Character Comes First
Your child becomes like the people they spend time with. Choose the tribe that builds them up.